A breakup is not the greatest boost to your confidence. One negative event can set off a spiral of others which is absolutely NOT what you need right now. No, you need to think positive. And looking great will make you happier and more confident AND give you a powerful motive to take control of your life.
And best of all, when your ex sees you looking great he’ll be kicking himself for losing you. And he will feel even worse when he sees that other men too are noticing the fabulous new you and liking what they see.
Men are highly visual creatures, and no man ever fails to notice a great-looking woman. So there’s no doubt that looking great will make you happier and more confident, and that’s exactly how you need to feel if you want to get your ex back.
Knowing you are looking great will be a terrific boost to your self-esteem, which is bound to have taken a knock. Remember that confidence is always a great aphrodisiac, so it’s worthwhile investing some time and effort in looking as good as you can. Then when you look amazing you’ll have your choice of men and your ex will realize he’ll have to act fast if he wants to get you back.
So it’s time to take action. Looking great is going to take a bit of effort on your part, but it will be well worth it.
Your Path to Looking Great – 1. Get in Shape
Having a great body will make you look and feel like a goddess. Remember that the way you bear and present yourself will determine how your boyfriend sees you.
Losing the will to exercise is easy when you are going through a breakup, but there are many reasons why you should make a big effort to keep it up.
Exercise keeps you active, which produces a rush of endorphins, which in turn lifts your mood. It gives a badly needed sense of purpose to your life, both in itself and in helping you along the way to getting your ex back.
It gets you active and out of the house.
Instead of wasting energy in moping, you will be using it productively to enhance your mood and your appearance. And looking great will give a big boost to your confidence; make you feel better about yourself and have other people – including your ex – taking notice.
Having beautiful posture gives a huge lift to your appearance. Standing upright and walking tall makes you more graceful, more elegant and also makes you look slimmer.
Good posture is mostly a matter of discipline. You must consciously seek to stand upright, keep your shoulders back and down, your back straight and your stomach in until it becomes habit. It’s a question of practice, but regular exercise and stretching will help.
Strengthening your core will improve your posture and help to avoid back problems. Yoga and Pilates are both excellent for this, and yoga especially will also do wonders for your flexibility.
Push-ups and planks are great for building abdominals and upper body strength, and will work your arms and shoulders at the same time. No more bingo wings!
This is the key to building muscle, which is essential for you to look toned and fit. Don’t worry about going overboard; a normal workout routine will not turn you into the Iron Woman.
If walking or running is part of your fitness routine; then try carrying weights and swinging your arms at the same time. It will give your arms and upper body a workout while you do it!
Walking is terrific overall exercise, and something you can do at any time. Forget the car or the bus and start walking everywhere. And take the stairs. It’s great for your physical shape and your health.
Your Path to Looking Great – 2. Take Care of Yourself
You should always aim to make the best of your appearance. Knowing you are looking great gives you an unstoppable boost of confidence.
Your hair is one of the first things a man notices about any woman, so find a style that suits you and makes you look fabulous.
Long hair is always beautiful but it doesn’t suit everyone. A short and elegant style or impish, pixie crop can also look wonderful. Just choose the style that not only suits your face, but which you know you will be able to maintain easily yourself.
Don’t over-wash your hair. Washing every other day is fine, and one shampoo is usually enough, unless you have very oily hair or swim regularly. And don’t damage it by over-processing. Too many chemicals can leave it dry and dull, while weaves and extensions can cause hair loss.
A regular conditioning treatment will help to keep it in peak condition.
Make sure you protect your skin from dehydration and the elements. Sun, wind, central heating and air conditioning are all bad for your skin.
Use a good moisturizer that is suited to area to which you apply it. Your face, body, hands and feet all need different types of hydrating skin cream to stay in good condition. And don’t skimp on the sun cream.
Use gentle cleansers and exfoliate your skin regularly. A dry brush or exfoliating cream will keep your skin smooth and soft.
Make sure you know your best features and accentuate them. Whether it is your long, glossy hair, your beautiful eyes, your flawless skin, your long neck or your luscious figure, make sure you show them off to their full advantage.
Use your clothes, hairstyle and accessories to draw attention to your good points and distract from any features you’d prefer to conceal.
But don’t get carried away thinking about your bad points, as this lowers your confidence. Concentrate on the good things, so that those are what people notice. The idea is to show your best side to the world.
Make sure you get enough sleep and take time to relax and enjoy yourself. Too much stress ages you and can also make you prone to putting on weight, because of increased and prolonged levels of cortisol.
Your Path to Looking Great – 3. Food Fetishes
Try to control any tendency to indulge in the wrong foods. The stress of a breakup can easily sabotage your diet.
Not only does junk food add useless calories to your diet, it also saps your energy levels and adds to your feelings of guilt and failure. Your ex boyfriend is not going to find you more alluring after you have put on 20 or 30 pounds, so you should keep this in the forefront of your mind as an incentive to stop yourself overeating.
‘You are what you eat’, and to look your best you need to eat healthy, nutritious food. Getting the right balance of vitamins and minerals in your diet is only the way to have glowing skin and shining hair.
Try to avoid processed foods and sugary snacks and drinks. Eat fruit and vegetables, protein, natural fats and wholegrain carbohydrates, and drink lots of water. Avoid processed meat (which is full of additives) and white bread, rice and pasta, which are largely empty calories. Food should be nourishing and not merely filling.
Your Path to Looking Great – 4. Dress to Kill
As well as watching what you eat, you need to dress to kill.
This means wearing clothes that fit you and flatter your curves, emphasizing your femininity. Women who are unhappy about their weight often try to compensate by wearing clothes that are too tight, or which are loose and shapeless. But trying to hide yourself like this distorts your figure and makes you look either cheap or frumpy.
Believe it or not, you will look best in clothes that fit you, whatever your size.
But remember that ‘less is more’ and don’t display too much bare flesh. You want to look alluring in a way that is classy, not cheap.
Experiment with different styles until you find your ‘look’. What style of clothing makes you feel good and most like yourself? As long as you feel good in it, you’ll be able to carry off your look wherever you go.
Probably the most important item in your wardrobe is your bra. The wrong size bra can ruin the fit of your clothes, make you feel self-conscious and even give you back problems.
A frighteningly large number of women in the world are wearing the wrong sized bra. Don’t assume that you just ‘know’ your size, as your weight and your age can affect your shape over time.
A young woman of 25 will probably need a different size from the one she wore as a girl of 18, and her size will probably have changed again before she is 40, especially if she has had children. So whenever you buy a new bra, make sure you get it fitted by a professional who knows what she is doing.
It will make all the difference to your appearance and your comfort.
This Is You, Looking Great and Feeling Happier and More Confident, Ready For Your New Life
Remember this is you starting a new life as a single girl, and you want to show the world you are confident, sexy and ready to be noticed. By nurturing your appearance you will feel good about yourself and this will show in your body language and your bearing.
Right now you need to be your very best self. And looking great will make you happier and more confident which is essential for your getting you ex back.
It will bring you plenty of admiring glances from other men too, which will boost your confidence and self-esteem.
It will also be a wake-up call to your ex boyfriend – if he doesn’t shape up quickly, someone else will be moving in to pursue you and he will have lost you for good!