Are you feeling insecure or anxious about your relationship? But you can’t quite put your finger on why you feel like this? Well, it might be because your intuition is telling you that something is wrong. And although you’d probably like to dismiss your worries as petty and trivial, they may be more significant than that. Could they be the first signs of a break up?
Most women have a powerful intuition. And when they ignore what their intuition is telling them, they often regret it.
If you are not normally insecure and needy, there might be good reasons for your uneasiness. Relationship problems don’t always blow up suddenly in a big fight; they can creep up slowly and subtly. So subtly, in fact, that you don’t even notice that things have already started to go wrong.
So if you think you see signs of a break up, then perhaps you should start looking at how your boyfriend is behaving.
What Are the Signs of a Break Up?
When you want to know more about men’s true feelings and intentions; don’t listen to what they say. Look at their actions.
When things are good between you, a man’s words should tally with his actions. If they have started to diverge, it’s a problem. And when they do; it’s his actions, not his words, that are speaking the truth.
So look at how he is behaving towards you, and see whether he is starting to do things that you should be worried about.
These are all typical signs that a break up might be in the offing.
1. He is calling you less often than he used
Even on days when you don’t see each other, a loving boyfriend will want to talk to you to exchange news; and just reassure himself that you are OK. If his calls are becoming less frequent, you’re entitled to wonder why. He might just be very busy; too busy to call as often as he usually does. He might have a problem; and withdrawn to his man-cave while he looks for a solution. Or he might be withdrawing from the relationship.
2. He takes longer than before to respond to YOUR calls and emails
If he is always too busy to get back to you when you call, or he takes much longer than usual to respond to your texts and emails, then it might be because he genuinely didn’t see them. Or it could be that they just aren’t as important to him as they were.
3. You have fewer dates and hang out together less than you used
There could be lots of good reasons for this; he might be overwhelmed at work, he might be ill, or he might have family or personal problems. But if there isn’t really any particular reason, then spending time with you is not the priority for him that it was.
4. He’s no longer making plans for the future
You used to talk about holidays and things you would do together in the future. But now he’s cagey about committing to plans for next weekend. If he’s started to say “We’ll see” or “I’m not sure what I’m doing”; then he’s no longer thinking of you in the long term. Along with all the other signs above, it shows that his emotional investment in your relationship is waning.
5. The PDAs and desire for sex has decreased
We all know how much men like sex, and for them it is central to a great relationship. If his interest in sex with you is waning, it might just be because you are becoming more settled as a couple. But if he is becoming less loving and affectionate too, then you might start to wonder. Women withdraw physically to assert their power in a relationship, but a man doesn’t usually refuse sex unless he is losing interest in a woman altogether. This could be because he has found somebody else.
6. He shows interest in other women
Being in a relationship doesn’t stop men noticing other women, but if he is also losing interest in sex with you, then it might be a sign that he is thinking of moving on. And if his interest is more than fleeting, or he openly checks out other women when he is with you; then not only is his interest waning, but he is also treating you with a disrespect that you shouldn’t be willing to tolerate.
7. He appreciates and compliments you less
For men, giving is more natural and rewarding than receiving. His compliments are gifts that show how much he appreciates you. If he’s not bothering to tell you how much he loves and values you any more, then he’s less bothered than he was about making you happy. And that is one of the strongest signs of apathy and disinterest he can give.
8. The fights are becoming more frequent – and he cares less about making up
Most men prefer a quiet life and try to avoid emotional drama. When something is wrong, he will want to solve it as quickly as possible, so that life can get back to normal. But if he is just walking away from problems, instead of trying to solve them, then he is losing interest in the relationship.
9. He makes big changes to his normal routine
You used to see each other several times a week, and spend the weekends together. But now he’s always working late, and hanging out with the guys at weekends. When he wants to spend his free time with anyone BUT you, it’s a sure sign of trouble ahead.
10. He forgets anniversaries or special occasions
Most men are not as careless and forgetful as they sometimes like to make out. If he keeps forgetting important appointments or anniversaries like your birthday, although he always remembered in the past, then he is becoming indifferent to your feelings and your happiness.
11. He doesn’t react when you don’t call him for several days
Although you shouldn’t do this just to play games, this is a useful test if you feel you boyfriend is genuinely starting to slip away. If you don’t call him, he should call you to find why YOU haven’t called, or if something is wrong. If he doesn’t bother, then obviously he’s not that interested in you any more.
12. Things just don’t feel the same when you ARE together
Remember how excited you used to be when you knew you were going to see him that evening? Where did it all go?
If you no longer feel excited and happy when you see him, then the chemistry between you is fading. This could be the main reason why your boyfriend is losing interest in your relationship. Most men aren’t willing to work at relationships before they have made a real commitment; so if the sexual tension and chemistry between you has gone, then he won’t see much point in continuing.
Take These Signs of a Break Up as an Alert for Your Relationship
So how did your boyfriend – and your relationship – measure up?
Just because you’ve seen some of these signs of a break up in your relationship, it doesn’t mean the end is inevitable. If you take it as a warning sign that you might have a few problems, you can use your knowledge to turn things around and spice up the attraction and chemistry between you.
Don’t think that all is lost, and lose faith in yourself. Noticing these signs in time gives you a chance to do something about your relationship before it’s too late.
He chose you, so you already know he is attracted to you. Use that confidence to remind him why he chose you, and how you are still the only woman in the world for him.
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